Hospice ADLs: My Adventures of Daily Learning.93
Where do you want to die?
This is not a popular question. In a conversation that matters with people who matter in your life, it’s tough to ask, maybe tougher to answer.
There are an assortment of questions that are easily answered or cleverly avoided: do you have a crush on that girl/boy, what’s your major, did you serve in the military, what’s your favorite team, are you two getting married, what do you do for a living, what will you name your child, what’s for dinner, and should we buy a house or keep renting? Questions are age-related or relationship-based or inspired by situations. We all ask them, since they help us get to know another person. When we ask them, we may also be wondering about our own responses. At the least, these queries—and so many others—help keep an encounter lively and ongoing and . . .
However, the “Where do you want to die?” question is likely a conversation killer. Who wants to make the time for that question? It’s morbid. It’s personal. It’s upsetting.
Is it easier to answer the question’s flip side? Where don’t you want to die? Continue reading